Confused Children & Complicated Centimetres
An American toy store, which isn’t usually known for its progressive agenda, is selling, among thousands of other things, a comic that dared to show a married gay couple.Some conservatives are outraged about kids being confronted with something nasty as love between two persons of the same gender. They say kids can’t handle that stuff. Oh really? On a side note: It’s ironic how they think children can’t comprehend the concept of sexual equality because they can’t understand sexuality, yet they charge the same kids as sex offenders when they’re as young as 6.

Anyway, Puppystuff has a nice analogy about this issue: “I keep seeing this argument from homophobic representatives that children should be sheltered from portrayals of gay romance because it’s ‘too complicated’ of a topic for them to understand. Every time I see it I’m reminded of a story.
When I was seventeen, I had a driving instructor who just went by “The Reverend” (I think this is because he used to be a reverend). He was a decent driving instructor; his advanced age hadn’t taken the same rasp to his perception and reaction time that it had taken to his voice and features. He told good stories about his time as a driving instructor, and his instruction was firm without being harsh. I never really had any awkward conversations with The Reverend.
Until we had a conversation about the Metric System.
The Reverend didn’t like the metric system. It was ‘too complicated’, with all its millimeters and centiliters, and it was all too much for him and he wanted to stick with what he knew, ‘cause it was simpler. This threw my high-school brain for a loop; were we talking about the same metric system? The kind with organized, powers-of-ten conversion, with clearly delineated systems for each method of measurement? It was completely beyond my ken that anyone could look at the hodge-podge mess of the Imperial Unit system, with its arbitrary methods of conversion, its frequently redundant and misleading labelling, and say “this is way simpler than that European goofiness.”
But the Reverend liked it. When pressed on why he thought the metric system was complicated, he muttered a few numbers, and one jumped out at me — two point two. The number of pounds in a kilogram.
The Reverend thought the metric system was complicated because he had to convert to it from Imperial. He couldn’t comprehend a remarkably simple system because he was approaching it from a complicated one that he knew by heart.
Homosexuality is not complicated. It does not confuse children at all. Over and over again we see instances of children asking questions about gay couples and, when the explanation is given to them, understanding perfectly. Children aren’t capable of the kinds of lust and love as adults are, so seeing two grown men or women in love is no more alien to them than seeing one of each in a relationship.
But to the homophobic parents of children, they find themselves halted and flummoxed by a concept for which their current system of measurement has no unit. The conversion to a simple idea about love is too complicated, coming from an archaic and narrow set of beliefs. They can’t imagine trying to explain homosexual love to their children even if they wanted to — they imagine it must be hard for the children because it’s hard for them.
Come on, you silly grown-ups. Homophobia is complicated. Homosexuality is not.”




about 1 year ago
Homophobia: parent:we hate them because our 2000 year old book written by goat herders told us too.
Son: but Jesus never even…
Parent: shut up! He did and that is that.
(son is left confused)
Homosexuality: parent: it is when two people of the same sex love each other.
Son: aww, like that couple in modern family?
Parent: yep. :)
(son is not confused)
about 1 year ago
Nicely said (and I mean that — I wouldn’t have been so “nice”).
about 1 year ago
nice analogy :)
about 1 year ago
Well perhaps a lot will get that analogy, but personally I don’t. Here’s why: I grew up and spent twelve years going to school learning the Imperial Metric System of measurements, and we all had it memorized and understood it completely. We even understood how the Imperial system differed from the U.S. system (40 oz. Imperial quart as opposed to American 32 oz. quart, 20 oz. Imperial pint opposed to an American 16 oz. pint, and so on). Then as a young adult, I, and all of my peers, including our parents struggled for years trying to convert metric into something we could understand. I do admit however, that the metric system is easier to learn, and it does have advantages to those that grew up learning it from childhood. I even had to carefully explain to a Californian why the specs on a new hybrid Toyota claimed it got way more miles per gallon in the UK than it does in the USA. He was mad that Toyota didn’t sell as fuel efficient car where he lived. He didn’t know an imperial gallon is 160 ounces. When I see a new car spec. that gives Liters/100km it means nothing to me. I have to spend time converting it into Miles Per Gallon for it to have meaning.
Understanding homosexual love? I think I understood that concept when I was about 12.
about 1 year ago
When reading about confused children, I always think of this Southpark episode where Butters goes to a gay reeducation center because he is “confused” (season 11, episode 2).
One really should watch the end speech, it’s both hilarious and so true at the same time…
(By the way, all the SP episodes are made available for free on the net by its creators, I don’t give the site name because I’m not sure about Milkboys policy about links, but you can easily find it)
about 1 year ago
I just read an article about gay marriage in The Daily Mail (a crappt right-wing newspaper my dad unwittingly buys). It quotes a high-position Roman Catholic as saying : “why can we suddenly redefine the meaning of marriage after hundreds of years? Why stop there? Why not let three partners marry eachother at a time?”
This is the first time I’ve ever physically face-palmed! Astounding!!
about 1 year ago
The man has never heard of polygamous marriages. Rather funny for someone of a church with so many missionaries in countries where these are common.
about 1 year ago
That analogy is brilliant.
about 1 year ago
Nice analogy, like it a lot!
And yes people have such a narrow mind, sometimes its ignorance or fear. But they do hurt more people than they protect.
about 1 year ago
To this day I cannot convert imperial to metric, but I can function quite well in either one independently. It is a great analogy. I just wish the US had converted to metric back in the seventies like it was suppose to.
about 1 year ago
About the metric system. It’s very simple to use. Just forget about the “other” system and use it. Stop trying to convert from one system to the other. Use it as though no other system but the metric system existed.
About an other language. It’s very easy to learn. Just forget about the “other” language and use it. Stop trying to translate from one language to the other. Use it as though no other language existed.
About gay love. It’s very easy to understand. Just forget about the “other” sexual orientations and do the following. Stop trying to figure out which one of the couple is the man and the other the “woman”. After all, love never needed to translate a gender for it to exist between two people, no matter what gender they are.
I guess that is where a huge part of the problem is. Straights are trying to “translate” sexual orientations to their own and by doing that missing the point as to what love is all about.
Kids can easily learn a measuring system because they aren’t entrenched yet in a belief about a measuring system. In fact they can easily learn many all at the same time. They will love to use any or all of those measuring systems and wont think less of one over the other. And this is where it gets interesting. Tell them that the metric system isn’t patriotic or isn’t good because it’s a “foreign” system and they just might believe it. They will become metric phobic! I wouldn’t be surprised that this applies to how kids perceive other sexual orientations, right?
about 1 year ago
i think that for the ”old folks” it’s a scary thing, just as many changes in the modern world are to them. we’ve redefined morals in so many ways in the past 50 years, such as the status of black people (in america), women’s liberation, contraception, pre-maritial sex….and even just TALKING about sex. now they are being asked to accept homosexuality as normal, and even give us equal rights. it must be difficult for many of them. i was born in 62 (yeah, i’m old, ok,,,) and just as we ask them to accept us, we should recognize, while never letting up on our fight for equality, that this is difficult for them. and that while yes….it sometimes feels as if we are being beaten down, we are indeed winning. i myself am happy to see the gay-straight alliances and all that, and frankly…jealous. if you don’t believe it, just ask the older gay guy that you know what it was like when HE was growing up. It’ll be an eye-opener, or….go to wikipedia and research…. STONEWALL RIOTS
never stop fighting, but never forget to be kind lest WE become the bullies
about 1 year ago
Did you ever wonder why dogs only live 12,13,14,years and adults live so much longer.It’s because a dog comes into this life with love,as for adults it takes many years for them to find out what love is all about. some never do find out,and that is a shame.
about 1 year ago
I do have to ask the following. Are you a parent? Yes, some gays are or have been parents, that’s why I ask this. As a parent I’ve seen two kids grow up from the first day they were born all the way to adulthood. I also have seen how “love” evolved in their lives. The truth is that love exists from the first breath they take. At first that love comes in the form of need, a need for food, security and comfort. That’s why a human touch is so crucial in their emotional development. But a lot sooner than many would want to believe, love, the one that I suspect you are talking about, does make its first appearance as in love as in a feeling of belonging and a need to belong to. At that period of a child’s life that love is truly unconditional. If it weren’t how could you explain a child still loving his parents after having received multiple beatings? They still want/need to love them at all costs. I guess that my take on it is that love is usually smothered out of a child instead of love appearing later in life. Now if we talk about love as in the Romeo and Juliet kind of love? Yes, that one takes many years to grow to a full understanding.
about 1 year ago
The fact of the matter is that children are born homophilic.
about 1 year ago
about 1 year ago
Couldn’t resist doing a google of that. :P
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=homophilic
about 1 year ago
+1 for the last line :) good post
about 1 year ago
The Reverend’s way of thinking is known as a “paradigm”; in other words, the inability to change one’s way of seeing or thinking on any given topic. Paradigmatic thought, known in today’s terms as “unable to think outside the box”, is at the root of all homophobia, as, once people form an opinion, they refuse, or can’t, change it, no matter what facts are brought to the fore that may help them to think differently on the subject.
A human genetic frailty, that, if it were non-existent, would certainly go a long way in eliminating homophobia!
(And, why DO we have a problem accepting the metric system? We count in base 10, as does metric, but measure in odd quantities of ounces, pounds, feet, yards, gallons, miles, quarts, inches. WTF is up with that?! Metric is so much easier, used world-wide, and makes MUCH better sense!)
Markus
11.3.12
about 6 months ago
No child is born Homosexual either.