Gay Judgment

Psychotherapist Matthew Dempsey explains why gay men seem to be extremely judgmental towards one another. He published another video before talking about the need for validation. [via]

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#1 written by Charlie Roo
about 8 months ago

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I don’t need a psychotherapist to tell me that most gays are emotionally wounded. That’s the main reason the overwhelming majority of my close friends are straight. I find them far more open and accepting even when it comes to having sex with them.
- #2 written by But
  about 8 months ago
  
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  Bingo.
  
  Most gay people are hiding more problems than the average straight ones. Be it from abuse, discrimination, violence, sexual crimes or the unfair vindictiveness of certain religions.
  
  I imagine a lot of gay men see what they don’t like about themselves in a number of other gay men, and hence are cruel to them. But everyone, straight or gay, does this.
#3 written by j0sH
about 8 months ago

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I have a feeling that most people, in general, are emotionally wounded. To say “straight” men are more accepting and less judgemental than “gay” men seems a rather erroneous and ignorant statement. I’ve had nearly the same amount of heterosexual friendships/relationships which have been strained by emotional wounds as I have in homosexual relationships. In general, I rather doubt that gay men are more judgemental towards each other than straight men are towards each other. Then again, I could be wrong, I’m no psychotherapist. The resounding message, it seems, is to internalize less and be more open minded towards one another.
- #4 written by Liam
  about 8 months ago
  
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  I can’t wait to have something more than a bromance. The problem is that most gay guys my age are so afraid to put their neck out there and be real. They need booze or pot to make being real and tender acceptable. Why do gays guys want to act like St8 guys anyway? Having said all that. I am judgmental. I would never date a guy who was like over 12 stones, unless he was really really tall; and then I wouldn’t because he probably has a nob like a horse. I don’t whinny for anyone!
- #5 written by Rok
  about 8 months ago
  
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  Josh, Charlie Roo didn’t actually state that “straight” men are more accepting and less judgemental than “gay” men. It was merely an observation from his own experience. My personal experience, though, leans more towards yours – an equal mix. My last straight relationship was a terrible disaster.
  
  Now – let’s see – what’s 7-3 ? Just LOVE these anti-spam maths exams!
#6 written by dreamer
about 8 months ago

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i like this picture!
#7 written by Liam
about 8 months ago

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Also can we talk about gay stereotype? For instance: a lot of st8 ppl in my town think that all gay ppl are fashion gods. Curse QeerEye…! Here when your not wearing the “IN” thing they judge you. And what about the stereotype that gay guys (boys) won’t fight and are sissy? Brian Conner won’t think that of me anymore. I hit him pretty good. :)) And finally, some assumes gay guys can’t or don’t want to play rough sports. School Wrestlng is still the best way to feel out your best friend (literally & figuratively). I love full contact sports and if I get blood on my hands I’m not going to run to mommy, but rather smear it on my shorts and play on.
#8 written by Trim Tony
about 8 months ago

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The benefit of having sex with straight boys is that they are in it for the sex only. I don’t want any kind of sick emotional involvements from the people I have sex with. I get intellectually involved with friends who may be straight or gay but I have no sex with. I like a simple and uncomplicated life.
#9 written by Gui Wolf
about 8 months ago

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I’m judgmental with guys who I see that have problems like mine ones… Like fat appearance, I have problems to see me on the mirror, I think it’s ugly because it don’t fit in the lean appearance that common sense says that is beautiful (get it?).
When I see a guy with fat appearance, I judge him ugly and not-kissable. I feel sad because If it was with me, if I’d been judged by my appearance, I would not like! What about the guy? How does he feel being judged?! I do to him the same I do to myself ><
I try to not do, but it's hard. It's like accept myself, how my appearance looks, and I still not prepared to it, demands much of me! And I'm only seventeen XD

( 8 – 7 = ??? maybe 3? LOL )
#10 written by Benjamin Duh
about 7 months ago

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nice video! I’m studying pshycology and this is what my thesis is gonna be about :)

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