The Queer Harold & Maude?

Gay film maker Bruce LaBruce (Otto; or, Up with Dead People) got a new project, Gerontophilia, that he describes as a queer Harold & Maude and you can help funding it on Indiegogo. Here’s the plot:

Lake is an unusual boy: he is a young man with an old soul who discovers he has an odd fixation on the elderly. Although Lake has a girlfriend his own age, named Desiree, he wonders sometimes if his fixation on old men is unnatural and unhealthy – perhaps even sexual.

When his mother, who is a nurse, takes on a management job at an old folks home, Lake jumps at her offer of a summer job as an orderly there. Gradually, Lake comes to discover that the old people in the institution are being given psychotropic drugs to keep them in a catatonic state. Lake befriends one old man in particular, Mr. Peabody, who still seems to have some fight left in him. They begin to form a strong bond. Mr. Peabody charms Lake with romantic stories of his youth and confesses his dreams of seeing the ocean one last time. Avoiding the vigilant eye of Nurse Stonehenge, who administers shots and pills to the old folks, Lake starts to wean Mr. Peabody off his medication.

Eventually, Lake springs Mr. Peabody from the institution. Together they embark on a road trip telling everyone they meet that the old man is his grandfather and that they’re driving to the ocean. After numerous life-changing escapades, Lake is finally ready to accept his true feelings for Mr. Peabody, but everything changes when the trip takes an unexpected turn. Read on….


11 thoughts on “The Queer Harold & Maude?”

  1. I was surprised to discover that gerontophilia is quite usual. I discovered a site dedicated to senior-junior relations (all over 18)

  2. Not to disparage LaBruce’s film in any way, but in my 75 years (having lived long-term in New York, Paris, Rome and Berlin) I have witnessed gerontophilia (in the sexual sense) exactly once. (I’m not sure about Tangier, because commercial boy/old man relationships were the norm.) I’m not trying to prove anything; just saying. Wish to hell it were more prevalent.

  3. Gay Harold & Maude?

    I don’t know if I would go that far, but I understand why you might compare it to Harold & Maude. Let me offer another somewhat comparison: Crossroads (1986) with Ralph Macchio and Joe Seneca (except this one is straight and with a younger girl than Joe). Ralph gets Joe out of a old home and they take a journey south to discover “Joe’s roots” as a blues player.

    But, even comparing it to Harold & Maude, it may have a few obstacles — like the excellent and classic songs by Cat Stevens, the classic 1959 Cadillac Hearse, the charm and cuteness of Bud Cort and, of course, the classic freedom of movie making that was in the early 1970s.

    But, this movie may just have its charms so we’ll see after its released.

    1. Didn’t think too much of Bud Cort tbh, I thought Maude was the star.

      The good thing about those times was not just that those ideas could be explored, but that if you were going to explore them, you didn’t have to rush to moralise them (not just the gerentophilia, but the stealing and so on). You can put money on this story being moralised at some point, if not, there would only be screaming hysterics to deal with.

      In many ways the 60s and early 70s were much more progressive than we our now and weren’t run through with the very modern arrogance of thinking we know everything about anything worth knowing.

    1. I remember that story and it sounds like that young guy might be a true gerontophile. In any case, I wasn’t talking about young men or boys who are attracted to the authority, wisdom, sophistication and achievements of an older male. I’ve known guys who were drawn to men like that and I was once very taken with a elderly aristocrat in Italy who had all of those things. I’m also not talking about 20-year-olds who are turned on by 40 or 50 year olds who are in great shape. That’s not what gerontophilia is. Gerontophilia is a sexual attraction to the PHYSICAL CHARACTERISTICS of OLD AGE. Just as pedophilia is a sexual attraction to physical attributes of pre-pubescense. Loving someone despite their age isn’t gerontophilia. And I repeat, in my over 50 years of cruising bars, parks, steam rooms, etc. (obviously, I’m no longer doing any of that at 75), I only saw one very young male who was clearly sexually aroused by the grandfatherly men who were present. Obviously it exists or they wouldn’t have a term for it. I’m just saying I’ve only encountered it that one time.

      1. Bob, I know it’s not often Americans think this way, but could it be that the tastes of boys in America can’t be extrapolated to the world as a whole?

        1. If you saw my first comment you’d know I lived for many years in New York, Paris, Rome from the age of 25 to 48 and in Berlin from 62 to 69. Once more, I’m not saying my experience proves anything, just that that was my experience.

        2. Nope.

          True gentrophilia is probably about as common as its utterly despised cousin, pedophilia, and definitely less common than the recently demonized ephebophilia.

          And I don’t mean a mature 40 year old with the the looks he had at 25 years old, only aged a bit. I mean real oldies.

          Never underestimate the power of money over a young guy with none. Or the fun us young guys derive from “teasing” older men. If you really think you have anything monogamous and romantic going with a man 1/3 your age, you need your head checked.

          The saying is, women can fake an orgasm, but men can fake a whole relationship.

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