Kiss Me Softly

17-year-old Jasper lives in a boring, small town. In his family, he can’t be himself. Jasper’s dad is a singer, named Lukkie Luk. All the attention in the family goes to his career. Jasper looks for a way to handle this and is faced with the typical questions in the life of an adolescent. Questions that will not be answered when he stays in his usual routine.

Original Title: Kus me zachtjes

  

21 thoughts on “Kiss Me Softly”

  1. Oh, for chrissakes, “Lukkie” Luk… be a father and GIVE THEM BOTH A HUG!

    ***k you, you big fake…. and your crappy toupee.

  2. So I watched the video three times now. I still think Jasper is NOT his best supporter. I mean really, telling your father you are gay in public while fucking up your dad’s live performance? What?

    And what about that Dad??? Did he crawl out of a neanderthal cave or what? The mom was sweet and supportive but brainwashed by her husband. I didn’t buy it. That may have been an accurate portrayal of a mom long ago in the 1980’s but not today.

    His coming out was sending a message. No one can doubt that. He did get his revenge, but at what cost? And what of his life after they got home? What about the next day? He’s fourteen to sixteen max. He is still dependent on his parents. Will he get kicked out? Will he be one of those boys we see in the window at Drakes in Amsterdam or on Rue Saint Anne in Paris?

    I think this video is good, but it sends the wrong message to weak-minded gullible guys our age. You don’t want to arrive on the streets of Paris or Amsterdam. You want to carefully tell your parents what you feel but in a way your are not hurting yourself.

    Another thing:
    Do we think this is the typical European family? My parents suspected I was a gay kid from my fourth year. After that they nurtured those things that were special about me, (my music, drawing, ballet, karate) and waited for me to blossom into the kid I was going to be…as it happened a gay son. How did Luke’s parents not know, not suspect, he was gay? Thank Gott that my parents are supportive.

    Overall I give this short film an Unsatisfactory Rating.

    1. Well m8 not everyone has ur parents u know. Up to a point i really admire what he did even if its not true but still i wish i can do that in front of my parents once and i hope u never feel what an unsupportive parent can make u feel.

      1. This exactly. Not everybody has parents as aware as yours were. I painted my toe nails and dressed up in skirts just to spin around when I was 4, yet both my parents seemed completely shocked, and my mother is still in denial about the entire thing (she occasionally offers to by my condoms when I go to hang out with a friend who also happens to be a girl). To me, this representation seemed to be reasonably accurate, even if my life didn’t mirror it.
        As for the scene in the show, I would’ve done the same thing. Sometimes the only way to get somebody to accept a fact is to give them no way of denying it.

        1. “As for the scene in the show, I would’ve done the same thing. Sometimes the only way to get somebody to accept a fact is to give them no way of denying it.”

          Well said. :D I fully agree and to add this: “… accept a fact is to shove it back in their face just like they shove it in [ours].”

          A great [TV] movie ‘proving’ this but with extreme results (for both) is Prayers For Bobby, (2009). Unfortunately for some families [parents], their only way of “final acceptance” (if, in fact, that finally occurs) is death of the very person they [say they] “love.”

    2. Liam, as always I enjoy reading about your family life and your thougtful comments in general. Your are very lucky to have such unusually supportive parents. I admire your ability to appreciate your parents along with your capacity for personal insight and impathic perception of others. However, mothers like the character in the film still exist.

    3. Liam:
      “And what about that Dad??? Did he crawl out of a neanderthal cave or what? The mom was sweet and supportive but brainwashed by her husband. I didn’t buy it. That may have been an accurate portrayal of a mom long ago in the 1980′s but not today.
      … and …
      My parents suspected I was a gay kid from my fourth year.”

      Sorry to break it to you and expose you to some, you know, reality, but MILLIONS of parents can be and are just like those: CLUELESS except for their own selfish desires. And, I don’t know who “Gott” is, but you should instead be thanking your insightful parents and your [their] particular environment at the time to be able to accept you the way they have. MILLIONS of children simply don’t have that “luck.”

  3. LOL that was very amusing indeed, and the ending was quite a shock. Would have liked to have known what was written on the note, though. I have to agree with Bruce; Jasper is unbelievably cute and sweet.

    1. They showed the note somwhere in the end. It had “vuile homo” written on it, freely translated it is “dirty faggot” or something like that

  4. It’s too bad there’s no “proper closure” for this video, but the final comeuppance is pretty good.

    re: this snippet of dialogue:
    Father: “Hey buddy, is there something you need to tell me? Are you being bullied at school? You’re not gay are you?”
    Jasper: “No.”
    Father: “Don’t fucking tell me that’s true, man.”
    Jasper: “What do you care anyhow?”
    Father: “Of course, I’d care.”
    Jasper grabs his jacket and prepares to leave.

    The father needs to be told, “If you really care [about your son], then you wouldn’t care [who he chooses to love].”

  5. “Jasper is too pretty by half”
    Ezra Fieremans, DOB 29/03/1994, Gent, Belgium.
    Says he’s straight :( Likes funny cigarettes:)
    In one other short film, “Early Birds”

  6. I don’t care if Jasper is gay or straight, he sure is a handsome dude. They where smart when they did the casting for this film. Jasper’s boyfriend is not so good looking and the film just keeps coming back to Jasper. LIAM, If you had parents like you say, you were very lucky indeed. I am suprised that you know you were gay at the tender age of four. Hell I don’t believe I was thinking about sex, gay or straight at that age. My mom was busy making sure I had the cleanest foreskin in the neighborhood, that I never thought anything about gay. I believe the mom in this film know her son was gay, but she just wanted him to say it to her. It seems that she hit the jackpot so maybe she and her son can go off and live the good life. At least they wouldn’t have to listen to that old fart of a father and so called singer. You can’t be faulting Jaspers Mom. She is trying to get him to open up to her. This mom is trying to keep a balance between the father,the son,and herself. It’s not easy thing to do,for either parent. When the old man seen them kissing,I suprised that toupee didn’t come flying off.

  7. Love your movie suggestions! Please keep them going, you are my best source for gay themed movies! Thank you :)

  8. Oh, please…. Ballet? Drawing? Painted nails and skirts?!? Is this a 70s gay cliché contest or what? For whomever’s sake…

  9. Dear guys,

    I am the director of this short movie.

    Thank you for being supportive. I made this movie cause I wanted to show the situation I was in. This is an autobiographic story and it takes place in a very little town in Belgium. If some people do not get this story cause it is ridiculous… This was my youth… I wanted to tell the story to show the world how I felt when I was a kid. You can always follow my movie on http://www.facebook.com/kusmezachtjes

    We are now touring all the festivals in Europe, and then we come to America to premiere my movie there!
    Thanks for the support!

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