Next time someone says Trans Children don’t exist, just introduce them to amazing seven-year-old Ryland

Any child would likely be lucky to have Jeff and Hillary Whittington as parents. Ryland Whittington may be especially lucky. Ryland, the Whittingtons tell us through this amazing video they made, is a transgender boy. Now seven, his parents have documented his story with love and understanding and honesty. Jeff and Hillary tell how they brought Ryland into the world, learned their child needed hearing implants at the age of one, then discovered “Ryland had more to share with us.”

They spent a few years saying Ryland was just going through a phase, but soon realized it wasn’t. “When the family dies, I will cut my hair so I can be a boy” Ryland told them. “Why did God make me this way?,” he asked.

When the Whittingtons learned 41 percent of transgender people have attempted suicide, they decided to embrace Ryland as a boy rather than risk losing him. The Whittingtons made this beautiful and inspiring film for the Harvey Milk Diversity Breakfast. They posted it to YouTube on Tuesday. Three days later, it has gone viral, seen by more than 350,000 people already.

The Whittington Family: Ryland's Story

“We are overwhelmed with the kind, loving messages from many people,” the Whittingtons told The Huffington Post. “While this journey has been difficult at times, we have come to a place where our family is ready to come out and try to help other families facing similar situations. Our hope is that by sharing our story, we can begin to make the world a more loving place where people can be their authentic selves.”

PS: The video might not be available in Germany, if you want to see it anyway you could try a plugin like ProxTube for Firefox (let us know in the comments if you know an easier way, thanks!)

  

70 thoughts on “Next time someone says Trans Children don’t exist, just introduce them to amazing seven-year-old Ryland”

  1. I am proud of my cousin Lindy, who was born and raised a boy in a very conservative English home. Her close family is still not very accepting, and she gets quietly left out of family occasions. Neither she nor I are surprised by that because I get left out too because I am, as they say, a fucking poof.

    1. Lindy, by the way, is in her early fifties. I so wish her family had even known that T existed, and had possessed the empathy and intelligence to embrace ‘him’ as she was then, as the girl she was.

      Ryland has great parents. Whatever his life turns out to be he has had a great and loving start. I;d have loved having his parents as mine

    2. Families can be worse than strangers towards differences. I’m just glad I am bi because having girlfriends enabled me to hide the fact I liked boys as well. My father was homophobic and a strict disciplinarian, he made such remarks as ‘if any son of mine turns out to be a poof I”ll send him to school in a pink dress’. The temptation was to ask if he would buy me matching shoes as well, but I preferred life.

    3. @ It’s Only Me from Across the Sea
      “-she gets quietly left out of family occasions. Neither she nor I are surprised by that because I get left out too because I am, as they say, a fucking poof.”
      ❦Though sad to hear that I’m still glad to hear of your overwhelming support of your cousin Lindy even though you’re just a ‘poof’! Least nowadays it’s more in the open with a bit less stigma attached then in her day but as it’s in the past we can only hope the future will be even less trying for such transgendered children.

      Might I ask if not improper; if you knew of her when young, maybe during the same period that you yourself knew you were different also but in another way?

      1. Not at all improper. When young she was a very cute boy indeed. I was very attracted to him. I am several years older than Lindy and it would have been a very inappropriate relationship.

        So I knew I was different, but I was also in serious denial. With my own parents denial was essential.

        1. @ It’s Only Me from Across the Sea
          ❦Thanks for your honesty, glad you two are still close all these years later…

  2. GOD BLESS HIM!!!
    I am here in tears just watching this. It is so well done! I feel for his parents, and they ALL have a difficult pathway ahead especially as he approaches the puberty years. But I believe he has the confidence to make this work.

    Now, anatomically and physically, when the decision is made to remove his ovaries and begin testosterone shots, his clitoris will grow into what very likely will look like a small penis. It will even get erections. Unlike a girl switching to a guy, this boy WILL have a very sensitive arousable organ capable of giving him extreme physical sexual pleasure, including of course, orgasms. I bet he WILL eventually find an understanding girl to be his girlfriend and quite likely HIS WIFE, and they will be capable of having a remarkable “almost-normal” and very satisfying sex life together!

  3. “When the family dies, I will cut my hair so I can be a boy”
    This was a 5 star story in all regards!
    ❦The Harvey Milk legacy foundation tie in was special also as now there are actually more organizations such as this to aid these families with their tough questions on this complex and emotional issue.

    Might have been a touch weirdly precognitive of his parents to name him Ryland which actually is a boy’s name in origin yet works equally well for both sexes.

    The best to Ryland and his most supportive family.

  4. What a great story of love, understanding and acceptance. “Relative to the horrific things people have to endure with their children all over the world, this is nothing.”

    Also, thanks to Jeeves who originally posted this on the board.

  5. Our “Friends” over at Faux Noise have enlisted the dubious services of one Keith Ablow, a psychiatrist who states he would prefer a course of anti-psychotic medication before allowing the child to live in the gender with which he identifies.

    http://mediamatters.org/blog/2014/06/03/the-inspiring-transgender-child-and-the-fox-new/199569

    The esteemed Dr. Ablow is aptly named, because he truly is, “a blow” (as in blowhard); but that’s my view as one doctor to another.

    1. It may seem an odd thing to say but I believe if the child identifies with a gender, then unless the child has been ‘programmed’, the child knows best even at such an early age. This doctor sounds like just another ‘things are black & white’ textbook moron who believes everything he reads. Seems to be a trend these days.

    2. @Dashiell
      ❦Seems like the same kind of moron that got ahold of poor little David Reimer and his twin brother in 65 after a botched circumcision surgery an decided it’d be better to make him female. ‘Psychologist’ John Money convinced the family it was a great way to go but ‘David’ always remained David in his mind until death by his own hand most probably related to the horrific things he went through as a child and his destroyed life in general.
      Now this of course was not a true transgender case but one of a forced gender reassignment,(physically & psychologically) on a male child totally incapable of defending himself with his ignorant parents being sadly bamboozled by false bs-psych speak by a true Dr.Quack! (Money actually had the balls to call it a positive experiment with excellent results!)
      Even his poor brother was dragged to later visits as a ‘model’ boy with Mony having both children perform pseudo male/female sex acts so young David could know his proper role as female; think what that did to David’s already fragile psyche to say nothing about his brother’s having to be a part of it!

      Leave this girl with a boy brain alone Dr.Blow, this boy and his family will do what’s right for young Ryland without idiots like you chiming in, he’s probably only one step above Dr.Phil anyway no matter what his actual credentials.

      Thanks Dr.Dash for bringing this up. ..ƌℯѵιʟ♨

      1. I agree Devil but I wonder how long it will be before someone twists this into an anti-religious post

  6. +/-

    First, the nice part. This is a very nice video but with problems. I’m glad his parents realized (in time?) that they are now raising a transgender child. I’m sure he will be much happier in his life if he can get through the crap our (and many others) society will heap upon him in his later school years, college and adulthood.

    7-8 years ago, my next door neighbor told me about her neighbors who were of German ancestry. They were a young couple and their youngest son declared when he was around 3 years old that he was/wanted to be a girl. Like most parents who have no knowledge of transgenders, they resisted allowing him to dress and act like a girl. It persisted and when he was entering school, he was finally allowed to wear dresses and was provided a bathroom to use (I don’t remember if it was separate to the others or if he was allowed to use the girl’s bathroom with the other girls). Even through this, his parents (again, German) still have a difficult time accepting their “son” is now a “daughter”. My neighbor who told me about this recognized the situation very soon after those parents told her of their situation — because she was a teacher in her career and she experienced similar with other children/their parents.

    Now, the not-so-nice part. I was “offended” with two elements: 1) the child asking, “Why did God make me this way?” …… and 2) that song, “Hallelujah”. “Offended” meaning, just how damn stupid are these parents, anyway?

    Both of those told me that: those parents are being ignorant by introducing their obvious religion to this child when by the very nature of this child being transgender, should have been enough proof that any “god” simply just doesn’t exist and their religion is bullshit. It should have been obvious that any religion would not accept children as transgendered if “god made them ‘certain ways’ ” Pure logic shows that to be just bullshit so why force this crap onto their children — regardless of their gender. The very fact that a child would ask this incredibly STUPID question (assuming that was truthful), shows they are ignorant about anything “god” and their related relgion (regardless of what it is).

    NO ONE needs any “god” to approve of themselves, their bodies and certainly NOT their gender — no matter what it is.

    1. “Now, the not-so-nice part. I was “offended” with two elements: 1) the child asking, “Why did God make me this way?” …… and 2) that song, “Hallelujah”. “Offended” meaning, just how damn stupid are these parents, anyway?”
      ☞And your opinion is relevant to them or us how?

      1. He’s just gone on an anti-religious rant AGAIN when the post doesn’t warrant it. Maybe it would be better if he had his way and mb’s do shut the comments down with such a sick puppy about. When someone is allowed to turn a transgender issue into an assault on the beliefs of many it detracts from the plight and courage of this seven year old and the parents. Another post tainted by bigoted bile. Sad

        1. The amount of ignorance you, jeffylube (who needs an oil change by now) and that ‘devil’ spew out rivals the energy expounded to make our moon. And the words all of you spit out without knowing the least of what you “talk” about is amazing, to say the least. YOU need to look up bigot and bully because you don’t know jack shit of what you post about.

          1. Huh, what?
            Sorry, me no speakie convoluted pile-o-crap!
            As someone used to say…KISS!

          2. Resorting to sweeping personal insults AGAIN Penboy. Tbh I expected no less. You usually do it when your pathetic arguments run out of steam. Next you will say the bible is all lies. So cool it with the “Bible is crap” garbage. A few mistakes doesn’t make something as useful as the Bible any kind of “crap”.
            So cool it with your self-aggrandized image of yourself. It’s so tired.

  7. @ Penboy – None of the 10 commandment relate to or stae Gods opinions of Transgender nor do they directly state anything about homosexuality. Many narrow minded and ignorant religous folks throughout history have tried to add to Gods 10 laws by creating rules and laws of men that enforce mans power over his fellow man. Christ said nothing about homosexuality or transgender issues. In fact the Golden rules is pretty simple and enforces the 10 commandments quite well. Love God. Treat all men as brothers do unto them as you would have them do unto you. Many many religious folks try to tout rules that neither God nor Christ said or taught. You certainly have every right not to believe, and possibly many reasons? Yet there are those of us who believe in God in spite of what those who play at being religious may claim is right or wrong. I am Christian in spite of the fact that I am Gay. I believe in Christ and his direct teachings about what God expects of us. I fully approve of the Whittington’s choice to respect Rylands decision. The important thing to remember is that many folks claim to be Religous and Christian but Christ said “By their fruits you shall know them” Many of those whop claim to be Christian or Religious simply are not. So please try to understand that your dislike of religion is perfectly understandable. The Whittington’s choice to maintain some semblance of faith while respecting their child’s choices is equally admirable.. We do not understand all the complexities of humanity nor of our creator. But the basic idea that we should all treat one another with respect and love is certainly a good and proper idea.

    1. @ Timerider
      “But the basic idea that we should all treat one another with respect and love is certainly a good and proper idea.”
      Ain’t that a fact Jack! Thank you very much…

    2. “You certainly have every right not to believe, and possibly many reasons?

      I could write a bible on the millions of reasons there is NO “god”. And the funny thing that you and so many just can’t grasp (because you have never read the bible fully and/or you have never grasped its meanings) is that IT IS WRITTEN in that bible that THERE IS NO GOD (and jesus christ and moses, etc).

      1. Your assumption is wrong.
        I have read the entire bible, as well as Torah and Koran.

        If you think the Bible says there is no God? Then it is you who has failed to read or comprehend it.

        This puts you in good company though as many who claim to be “teachers of religion” do not comprehend those books and focus far too much on profits rather than prophets.

        This is taking this thread off topic though so I think I will make this my last comment.

        1. “If you think the Bible says there is no God? Then it is you who has failed to read or comprehend it.”

          As I said, YOU haven’t READ that bible ….. or …. you’re just too damn IGNORANT to UNDERSTAND what’s in that LYING book. To wit:

          Genesis (the very FIRST LINE of that ignorant book:)

          “In the beginning” When was the universe created?
          The Gap Theory 1:1-2

          The Genesis 1 creation account conflicts with the order of events that are known to science. In Genesis, the earth is created before light and stars, birds and whales before reptiles and insects, and flowering plants before any animals. The order of events known from science is just the opposite. 1:1-2:3

          ……… AND …………

          God creates light and separates light from darkness, and day from night, on the first day. Yet he didn’t make the light producing objects (the sun and the stars) until the fourth day (1:14-19). And how could there be “the evening and the morning” on the first day if there was no sun to mark them? 1:3-5

          ———————

          Don’t tell ME I haven’t read that LYING CRAP. Answer #1:
          That is one FUCKING STUPID “god” — for those that say it is the “WORD of ‘god’ ”

          Answer #2: For those who say that book is from “divine inspiration” (yet acknowledging HUMANS actually wrote it): So, this “god” is inspiring STUPIDITY to these HUMANS?

          And, I’ll throw in one more that shows that book is TOTAL CRAP:

          The “ORIGINAL” [that NO ONE has ever seen] jewish bible was supposedly written in HEBREW and of course, the christian ["ORIGINAL" as well] bible is also supposed to be written [and assumingly "SPOKEN" by this "god"] and since “he created” HUMANS ….. So, …………….

          WHY ISN’T EVERY SINGLE HUMAN ON THIS PLANET SPEAKING/WRITING HEBREW ONLY?

          NO, my friendly religious IDIOT, I COMPREHEND this writing quite well.

          You and those like you are too fucking busy being APOLOGETICS for this CRAP that you can’t see the FOREST because of badly “written” TREES.

          (I know ….you going to come back and offer MORE LIES AND CRAP that …… how is it they put it? Oh, yes, “it’s the INTERPRETATION”. Yeah, RIGHT.)

          1. I sincerely hope mb’s shut down the comments because your filthy bile you have spewed for however long is monotonous. You are so stupid you don’t mind making yourself look a fool because you can’t see what a tosser you look to all those watching on. You are single-handedly destroying the comments section but are either unaware of it or couldn’t care less. Well you sad twat consider this, when the comments close you will have nowhere to spew your filth and you can go back to the lonely twisted individual you are. I hope you live a very long life because you can obviously find no joy in it.

            1. @ Indra
              “I sincerely hope mb’s shut down the comments-”

              No, just PENBOY unless he’s banned from discussing his fave subject and it’s not boys!

        2. I should have included this above, but forgot:
          “This puts you in good company though as many who claim to be “teachers of religion” do not comprehend those books and focus far too much on profits rather than prophets.”

          I DO NOT “teach” religion ….. if anything I “teach” AGAINST it.

          And, I, for one, do not make a single ‘cent’ [or other tiny piece of money] of “profit” on my knowledge of religion — I freely give it for FREE.

          So, it seems YOU are the one who does NOT comprehend anything about religion. (And, I’m wondering, just purely out of curiosity, just what is your age [HONESTLY]? — If you’re nice enough to say the truth.)

          1. You don’t teach shit. You’re just a moronic bigot who has been made to look stupid so many times it’s no longer funny

            1. Are you trolling as “Timerider” now?

              And all YOU do is troll and put up total bullshit without EVER posting anything of merit — you ONLY attack personalities, not the merits of the post. And YOU are the moronic bigot who has been made to look stupid so many times no one is laughing any more. You have NEVER contested anything I’ve said, you just post crap about “wiki” and your asinine opinions about me which mean nothing.

            2. Oh dear ‘Trolling’ we all know who the real troll is here (and not even a good one because you are too stupid). Persians inventing our numeric system WRONG. Freckles as skin blemishes WRONG. Fair haired people preferring darker haired people WRONG, etc. etc. etc. shit the list is endless read the past comments it’s all there showing what a tit you are, you talk utter rubbish because you read something on wiki but are too stupid to comprehend it.

          2. “And, I, for one, do not make a single ‘cent’ [or other tiny piece of money] of “profit” on my knowledge of religion — I freely give it for FREE.”
            ☞WHO’S ASKED FOR IT?
            Milkboys, please toss this Crap Miester to the curve and give us a well deserved break from this unbidden forced education out of the anal’s of lord penboy from the land of nobody gives a shit!

            1. ♨Hey penboy, found this description of you in the bible…
              ☞As a dog returns to its vomit, so a fool repeats his folly. Proverbs 31:6

          3. @preachboy
            “And, I, for one, do not make a single ‘cent’ [or other tiny piece of money] of “profit” on my knowledge of religion — I freely give it for FREE.”

            ☞Who’s asked for it and why does mb’s persist in allowing such dribble to ooze its way down the pike?
            Do tell for what reason are members made to wade through this unbidden sludge practically on a daily basis from the anal’s of pb and the land of no one truly gives a damn…

            1. ψ Forgive this somewhat redundant rewrite…original response was/is in mod-limbo. …ƌℯѵιʟ♨

  8. 12 to 14 years is a more appropriate age if you are a kid and want to change sex.
    The issue is informed consent.

    We (rightfully) don’t presume that kids can, or are informed, or mentally and psychologically capable of consent when it comes to alcohol, sex, war, politics.

    And yet in this issue feelings and political correctness trump logic and reason. Wouldn’t be the first time.

    1. @ Julian
      “12 to 14 years is a more appropriate age if you are a kid and want to change sex.”
      ☞Maybe physically by surgery but it’s unfair to force a child to live a gender they’re not. This has caused undue hardship on many a transgendered child and their family to say nothing of the high suicide rate of such conflicted children. Letting them live as their ‘brain’ gender dictates may be rough for them individually and for the family but at least they won’t be under that heavy oppressive anvil of wearing a false gender too. IMO of course.

        1. @ Julian
          “12 to 14 years is a more appropriate age if you are a kid and want to change sex.”
          ☞Sorry Sir, surgery was not specifically mentioned by you nor does the post mention anything about it.
          If I offended it was not my intent but my comment was point specific whereas yours was not.
          And yes, I read your comment prior to posting…

    2. @Julian – No quarrel here with your last statement regarding feelings and political correctness trumping logic and reason, but I am curious about where you drew the line at 12 to 14 years. Is your position based on the presumed onset of puberty, or something else?

      Research and work done by folks like Norman Spack, MD and others, points to statistical indicators that show most children have an established “gender identity” by 4 or 5 years of age, far in advance of puberty. If gender dysphoria is present, for whatever reason, it is becoming clearer that allowing the child to identify with the gender he or she feels most comfortable, is psychologically the best answer. Statistically, children are entering puberty at an earlier age than they did twenty-five years ago. It also makes sense to me, that the more we learn about gender dysphoria, the earlier it can be recognized.

      1. Sorry but I thought it was a reasonable assumption, sort of his catchphrase really. He claims wiki shouldn’t be mocked because of discrepancies but is pretty rigid on ancient text.

  9. Comment #17 is the most heartless, twisted piece of hatred I have ever witnessed. A child and parents do not deserve to be chastised by an ignorant know-it-all who cannot possibly imagine what it would be like to be in their situation. If faith in God helps them get through each day then what sort of bigoted monster would deny them that hope. I wouldn’t piss on such a scumbag if he was on fire.

    1. @justincaysov
      “I wouldn’t piss on such a scumbag if he was on fire.”
      -Me either!
      Such a low down hateful statement; bad enough against the parents but to imply their seven year old was stupid too for his family’s beliefs?
      Seriously, what’s the reasoning for that?
      That man is one twisted puppy, something warped that dog early on!

  10. To the two idiots above:
    My statement was:
    “The very fact that a child would ask this incredibly STUPID question (assuming that was truthful), shows they are ignorant about anything “god” and their related religion (regardless of what it is).”

    The bolded words show that NEITHER OF YOU either know how to read properly, or just can’t comprehend what you think [plural] you “read”.

    I said OBVIOUSLY if you can read properly, the QUESTION was stupid, NOT the child; and the PRONOUN, “THEY” represent the PARENTS, NOT the child — You CAN READ, can’t you?

    The above two posts just goes to show the IGNORANCE AND HATE from those two IDIOTS — their ONLY concern is to DENIGRATE ME, and not be “objective” IN ANY WAY.

    1. Duuuh, you be so right masa penisbrain I reads it wrong cause I’s be soo stuupid!
      But of course your entire statement was most proper and it was totally imperative that everyone visiting milkboys got your unequivocally clear point re that ‘STUPID GOD BELIEVING FAMILY’. Especially necessary to know after reading their heartfelt story about all they’d gone through with their wonderful but ‘stupid question asking’ hearing disabled and transgendered child.

      Please kindly stick your head back up your ass where it most properly belongs and try crying to someone who actually cares!

      1. Rentboy hate filled comment: ‘those parents are being ignorant by introducing their obvious religion to this child when by the very nature of this child being transgender, should have been enough proof that any “god” simply just doesn’t exist and their religion is bullshit’
        My comment: ‘If faith in God helps them get through each day then what sort of bigoted monster would deny them that hope’
        Answer: The sick fuck who wouldn’t know empathy if it jumped up and bit his ass.

  11. I was wondering if we could perhaps get back to the point, which is about the child? Sidetracks are all very well, but they seldom reach the station

    1. The post is indeed about the child and his welfare. I fear for the bullying he will endure as he grows up. Let’s face it he and his parents are being called stupid here in this ‘safe haven for LGBT teens’ where people speak freely without ridicule simply because of their beliefs. What would you have me do? Ignore Penboy and his bile like the silent masses generally do when they see bullying? When I first came here he was strutting about like a demented cock blatantly abusing and insulting people, now he’s had some payback and I’m sure others will agree it is long overdue.

      1. I don’t propose to get drawn into discussing individuals. One rebuttal is enough for anyone one disagrees with, then back to the topic being discussed.

        1. I don’t blame you for not wanting to get involved (seems to be par for the course here) and agree wholeheartedly one rebuttal is enough when debating with anybody in possession of even a small amount of intelligence. I also believe this post has nothing to do with religion, just read back and see who made it a religious thing and on what grounds. Then look back over the comments for the past six months (at least) and you will note many topics twisted into similar without provocation or cause. On a site where tolerance is key I fail to comprehend how intolerance of differences is allowed. Anybody who condones such behaviour or allows it to continue has no right to be up in arms next time they are called faggot or queer.

        2. @It’s Only Me From Across The Sea
          ψ Sadly that’s not allowed by one member and as some have mentioned before “he just won’t let go of that bone” and for once I’m not talking about me either!
          It’s time someone put down penboy and his evil hate filled rhetoric for good because it’s tainting all that’s good from milboys.

          BAN PENBOY FROM THESE PAGES AND BE DONE WITH IT!

    2. @It’s Only Me from Across the Sea
      “Sidetracks are all very well, but they seldom reach the station”
      ❦That may be…And admittedly I did enjoy it much more when you and I were just speaking of your lovely cousin Lindy and just the post but as Indra and others have pointed out subjects were brought to bear that had no relation to the post.
      I don’t believe the wrong is in the words from those that have rallied against but in the words of the antagonist himself that first started this nasty ball a rolling.

  12. Beautiful example of what many people use to say is the fruit of the bad moral costumes… A boy that discovers his real gender at 5 or 6 years old!!
    I´m hetero, but four years ago, talking with “trans” people (in Brazil) that told me they had clear their other gender at 12-13, I changed my mind. It helped me to see so many people that appeared only to laugh at them when we where talking. How is possible that people can spend a friday´s night in disturbing other only because they feel different gender?
    I ask for pardon to the LGBT community because I acted guided by preconceptions and dogmas.
    For people still with that ideas, I recommend study science and evolution (Daniel Dennett, Jerry Coyne, Richard Dawkins).

    1. @evolut222:
      “I ask for pardon to the LGBT community because I acted guided by preconceptions and dogmas.”

      No problem, I for one, excuse you because you seem to have learned from your “inherent” heterosexual dogma. Welcome to the other side for learning!

      .

      “For people still with that ideas, I recommend study science and evolution (Daniel Dennett, Jerry Coyne, Richard Dawkins).”

      Excellent reccomendations! Thank you for that. [And a very good name, too!]

      1. Oops! Sorry, I misspelled “reccomendations” …. I meant, of course, recommendations.

  13. Science and medicine have done a tremendous amount of good and provide numerous possibilities to have a more enjoyable life after the transformation (physical).

    I tried looking up MtF post trans-gender/trans-sexual surgeries to learn how they were successful. The only links I found refer to the changed genitalia and the abilities of sexual fulfillment after the surgeries.

    What I didn’t find for the POST- trans* surgeries is if (for M-t-F) the “new” person has FULLY “working” ovaries to produce eggs for reproduction.

    Nor could I find anything about the differences of PELVIC structures between male (pre-) and female (post-surgeries). Is the pelvis for the “new female” now adequate (in size/breadth) for having a pregnancy/carrying a baby as is in a female (naturally)?

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