Traps!

I’d like to offer you a little clarification about Trap Thursdays: Posts under the Trap Thursday category feature both androgynous & cross dressing people and transgendered people.

In case of the former you should understand the “Trap” in the post title in the classical sense: People who are easily mistaken for their “opposite” gender (I put opposite in quotation marks because the whole purpose of these posts is to show that something like hard-coded genders don’t exist and don’t matter because eventually all that matters is that you think a person is beautiful and if you can’t even tell if someone is a boy or a girl or something in-between… why bothering caring then?)

Transgendered people on the other hand aren’t traps since a transgender boy actually is a boy and a transgender girl is a girl, regardless of the gender they were assigned at birth.

So if you see a transgendered person posted as Trap Thursday this doesn’t mean anyone wants to imply they want to trap someone. In these cases please understand “Trap” as “trapped in the wrong body” (when it’s someone who didn’t have sex reassignment surgery yet or doesn’t want to have it) or “having escaped the trap of a wrong body” (when it’s someone who had sex reassignment surgery). OK? :)

  

16 thoughts on “Traps!”

  1. Fine by me josh :) hey dewboy, if you still come on this site, are u from new england? U had asked me b4 if I am. Im from USA :)

  2. This seems confused. Gender isn’t assigned at birth. Sex is.

    And since you are reinforcing the idea that gender is not hard-coded, surely you mean androgynous people are mistaken for the opposite sex?

    1. I would think that we presume androgynous people are whatever sex we’d like them to be.

    2. The terminology could be clearer. Biological sex is assigned by the doctor performing the birth by examination of the genitalia; gender is concomitantly attributed by the society in which the individual lives and conformity to culturally defined gender roles is thus enforced by family, peers, religious institutions, government authorities, etc.

      ~Randy

  3. I get it completely, I think. I’m old, and grew up in the ’60’s. and a lot of young guys started growing their hair out longer (including myself). I can now laugh when I remember back then to how my father reacted to it all. He was on my case to get a haircut constantly, and made all sorts of derogatory remarks about how nowadays you can’t tell who is a boy or is a girl, and basically swearing at anyone who he considered a hippy, or a homo. For me it was obvious, from the wideness of shoulders, or hips and other subtle attributes. My father and his friends were extremely homophobic back then, and that was the norm. I always kept my mouth shut, and remained firmly burrowed in the closet. It truly was a black and white world back then, although I knew in my heart that there were all kinds of shades of grey. I’ve long since come to realize no one is completely male, or female, nor are they completely heterosexual or homosexual. Josh has opened my eyes to the plight of the transgendered people, and I’m grateful for being able to learn about these people, and the struggles they go through.

    1. @Dave-I enjoyed your post. Yep, that was the 60’s. Homophobia was the norm and I had a John Wayne wannabe for a father. I too was burrowed in the closet despite my thin wiry runner/dancer frame, long wavy alburn locks and androgynous face. I defensively grew a beard and instantly became a Kris Kristofferson lookalike. So I was identified as straight and severly limited myself. I could have had, should had more fun. Those crazy 60’s.

      1. @Bruce: “I too was burrowed in the closet despite my thin wiry runner/dancer frame, long wavy alburn locks and androgynous face. I defensively grew a beard and instantly became a Kris Kristofferson lookalike”

        Aww, I bet you were cute. Too bad we didn’t meet each other way back then. I’d have made you shave the beard off though. xD

  4. I would like to kindly request that you avoid the misconstruction “transgendered”, which implies the undertaking of a procedure. Transgenderism is not a procedure and “transgender” is the only correct adjectival syntax.

    Misnomers like “transgendered” (past participle), “a transgender” (noun), “transgendered person” (participial adjective) can be disparaging and should never be used to identify people of non-normative gender.

    Thanks for your kind consideration!

    ~Randy-boi

  5. I appreciate the clarification, as I’ve found the Trap Thursday category simultaneously hot and potentially transphobic.

    However, the whole rhetoric of ‘trapped in the wrong body’ is still problematic for me. There are plenty of trans folks who haven’t had any surgeries, don’t plan on having them(and some who have opted not to take synthetic hormones either) and are perfectly comfortable with their bodies. I’m not trying to criticize or denigrate anyone who has undergone surgeries or hormone therapy to feel more comfortable. But, in any case, the trap lies not in a human body(which is always pluripotently capable of playing host to any possible gender), but rather in society’s construction of a given gender as ‘going with’ one particular sex only. The idea that a trans person is ‘trapped’ in the wrong body only reinforces this bullshit conflation of sex and gender.

    I understand that disphoria often creates the sensation of being trapped. But that is not a universal experience for all trans folks, by any means.

    1. Well said. I had a brief stint with HRT myself, but then came to the realization that I love my body. I discovered that the only trap was the gender roles imposed by society. Hence now I identify as genderqueer and dismiss the binary entirely, and am quite content.

  6. Thank you for this clarification, l am a third age (senior) guy who has always been in touch with my feminine side. My parents thought l would be gay yet, was not. I enjoy wearing simple indications of my the fem side in public and openly would like to be reincarnated (if it were possible) as a girl.
    I love all fashions and am straight albeit at times my thoughts wander to sharing with a like minded person.

  7. Thank you for this clarification, l am a third age (senior) guy who has always been in touch with my feminine side. My parents thought l would be gay yet, was not. I enjoy wearing simple indications of my the fem side in public and openly would like to be reincarnated (if it were possible) as a girl.
    I love all fashions and am straight albeit at times my thoughts wander to sharing with a like minded person.

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